Breathe Right

25 Apr 19
50shadesofhumanity

You missed your period. It’s not unusually late, but you wonder “is this it?” “Am I pregnant?”. You figure your overreacting as usual, but grab a test anyways. You take it reluctantly and fear takes over your entire body. Your anxiety shoots up. You can’t breathe. The room is getting smaller. The test comes back […]

25 Apr 19
Santé Vie

You know that old saying, “You are what you eat?” Goodness, that used to traumatize and shame me to no end. To me, it said, “If you eat chocolate, your thighs are gonna explode; If you shove those Pringles in your mouth, you aren’t gonna get your jeans buttoned the next day….” There’s a lot […]

25 Apr 19
For the Love of the Oxford Comma

It’s 2:27 pm and everyone is waiting. The fan hums loudly, ribbons of dusty cobwebs flail from the cheap white plastic, blades cycling and slicing. Cycle, slice. Cycle, slice. Cycle, slice. Life’s operations reduced to the simplicity of a Honeywell fan. The world turns. Its grievances cut. They shuffle to their chairs, fidget fidget tap […]

25 Apr 19
craftia.in

Wood has been an essential cloth for building furniture and numerous ornamental gadgets. Explanation each piece of the collection is a real masterpiece in itself and displays the real grace and rich. India Wood Crafts gift a special medley Coconut Shell Handicrafts India. These Indian Handicraft objects show the true spirit of Indian Craftsmanship along […]

25 Apr 19
Random Smatterings of Life

I had recently posted a blog update about depression and trying to explain it to people that have never experienced it. Anxiety is a tougher one to try to explain to people and help them understand exactly what happens when your system begins to go into anxiety attacks and you develop an actual anxiety disorder […]

25 Apr 19
Bronte Beatrice

I haven’t been this inspired to spill out all my thoughts out onto a page in so long, so here I am, tucked into a wee corner of a downtown cafe and ready to write. Thats how all the emotion filled blogs start out right? I’ve been traveling for a few years now and I […]

25 Apr 19
Will 212

When I was younger, around 12 years old, my brother and I were very “active” as children. “Active” meaning, we were two bad ass kids! Always running around the house wrestling, or playing our favorite indoor game called “over the top”! We’d use a rolled up sock as a football and try to mimic the […]

25 Apr 19
The McYarborough Family

We were on a high from this small victory of Michael being deemed cognitive. Finally there was some good news after weeks of worry, sadness, and despair. Unfortunately, this did not last long. I was on the way home from visiting Michael one day when my dad called to tell me that our dog, Nina, […]

25 Apr 19
Amity Counseling & Consultation

I am so glad you visited my site! It’s been a process to get this business together and I’m happy I get to share it with the world. I wanted to make my first post a little more about me and why I decided to get into this line of work. I feel like a […]

25 Apr 19
Thrive Global
It’s summertime, which means I am spending more time with my kids, which is sometimes awesome and sometimes awful, which pretty much sums up my entire parenting experience, which reminds me why parenting sucks.  Parenting sucks not (just) because of your baby’s poopy diapers or the shit that happens to your kid at school or the crap that comes out of your teenager’s mouth. And not (just) because of how exhausted you are when you’re changing those diapers, or how helpless you feel when you can’t step in and save your kid, or how furious you feel when that same baby turned child turned teenager screams “I hate you!” through a locked bedroom door as you scream back “Unlock this door right now, or I will take it off myself!” Not (just) that. Parenting sucks because it showcases all the choices you have made – not only for yourself, but for your children. It is an easy and cruel way to go step-by-step and painstakingly pick out all your mistakes. Note every time you veered left when you shoulda (coulda) veered right. A cruel way to reminisce and regret. (If you don’t have kids you can do this with your career or with your partner or your lack of a partner or your body or your health. There’s always something you can use to prove the ways in which you haven’t lived up to your potential.) Parenting sucks because it yanks the rug out from under your feet and throws you up into the sky like Dorothy’s house – where it lands is anyone’s guess. It pays no mind to the careful selection you made of a partner to parent with, or the therapy you did to deal with your own childhood, or the hours upon hours you spent envisioning what your home life would look like, what your children would be like, and what you would be like as a parent. It is the ultimate in fantasy-busting, because whatever you imagined gets turned on its head.  (It reminds me of my favorite book I never read: “I was a Better Mother Before I Had Kids” – because the title says it all. Kinda like “Blink”.) Parenting sucks because you find yourself wanting things you never thought you would want, like staying at home with your kids, or reconnecting to your religion, or giving up on your dream of becoming a musician and picking a career path that is solid and stable and allows you to take care of your family. It sucks because you find yourself less concerned about figuring out your purpose and more concerned with making time to hang out with your family, because, get this – you like spending time with them. (I mean, look at them! They’re cute, they’re smart, they’re funny and they make you laugh so hard that it hurts. Who wouldn’t wanna hang out with them?)  Parenting sucks because you become unrecognizable to yourself. Controlling, petty, judgey, resentful, competitive, defensive, frustrated, nasty and critical (and those are just mine, feel free to come up with your own). Or maybe you were always that way, but at least before it was managed, repressed, tempered with enough I’ve-got-my-shit-together that you didn’t have it up IN YOUR FACE so that all the mechanisms you once used to avoid, deal and distract from it are no longer applicable (again, this is me, feel free to come up with your own).  You also become empathetic, patient, tolerant, thoughtful, warm, loving, giving, generous, and fiercely protective. Parenting sucks because it stretches your heart so wide and thin, that you can hardly breathe. Because it sends a surge of joy so deep, that you can feel the potential of anguish and sorrow standing by at the ready. Because it packs a heart and home so full, that you can sense the dread of the empty nest. Because it creates a vulnerability so raw and exposed, that you take on their pain as your own. Because it bestows upon you superhuman strength, while reaching new lows of humility. This is why parenting sucks the most. Because it is a pendulum swing of emotions that ravages your heart and roller coasters your world, with moments of joy and hours of anguish and yet, somehow, always leaves you wanting for more
25 Apr 19
Thrive Global
Purpose is a problem because it tangles us up inside. Like a fish caught in a net that becomes more enmeshed as he tries to escape. It is often related to our outside selves (and frequently confused with What Do You Do?). Purpose is a problem because it depicts a scenario where you are on a thin path (or rather a tiny circle, in the case of the Purpose Venn Diagram), when the world is broad and generous and full of opportunities. Purpose is a problem because it tells you there is only one way (a perfect way), when your experience shows you that there are many ways, multiple paths, and a myriad of choices, leaving you stressed out about choosing the wrong one. Purpose is a problem because it is self-sabotaging, because in your anxiety to pick the wrong purpose, you could be looking for perfection instead of purpose, and missing out on the joys of real life (which is decidedly imperfect).  Purpose is a problem because it positions us, once again, in a situation of Here and There. Here is OK but not quite good enough, whereas There has purpose and meaning. (Is it possible to have purpose if it doesn’t serve others or change the world in some way?) You can live your whole life and never have fulfilled your purpose (kinda like your potential, cuz, apparently, people who fulfill their purpose are also successful). Purpose becomes like your soulmate – The One person you are looking for in a haystack of thousands. If you haven’t found the one then you can’t have relationship – and if you haven’t found your purpose then you can’t have peace. That’s nuts. What is it we are looking for, when we are looking for our purpose? What if there is no purpose to find? Is it possible that your purpose is whatever you are doing in this moment – whether or not it brings you great joy? Is it possible to find great joy in whatever you are doing in this moment – whether or not it is your purpose? (Often stories of purpose have someone quitting a corporate job to become a writer or travel the world. Is it possible to have purpose in life that includes a corporate job? A corporate job in a company that you didn’t start yourself, I mean.)  What if you are fulfilling your purpose right now? And now. And now. What if everything you have done up until now has been in fulfillment of your purpose?  What if your only purpose is to be OK with the life you have led and enjoy the life you have now? (Not all the time, sometimes life gets messy and sometimes it really sucks, but it’s your life, why not have it fully and relax the examination of it?) (There’s a difference between a life examined and a life scrutinized to tiny bits and pieces.)  What if your purpose is just to enjoy your life, whatever it is? What if there is no purpose in your life other than to have it? Will your life be wasted? Will it have been meaningless? Will you be forgotten? What if the answer to all of those questions is: yes, yes and yes (and as you grow older you realize that indeed, it is)? Can you breathe a sigh of relief and enjoy your freedom? Because then all that would be left is to enjoy the life that you are having right now.  What if that was your only purpose?
25 Apr 19
Red Shoes, Funny Shirt

I heard someone (I think it was Dr. Amy- Jill Levine) say years ago, that we like to think that the Holy Week liturgies speak for themselves, but they don’t. They speak loudly, but unless you consciously unpack what they say, and what people hear, you run the serious risk of adding another reinforcing layer […]