Dating

21 Jan 19
The Circle of Fifths

Nothing says 2019 like a green pair of goblin titty’s. However, there’s a scene in the movie Singles with the late/great Layne Staley, where he’s whipping crusty blonde dreads like a pixie possessed. Cut through the mire of that sappy dating shit and expose what that movie is really about, which is about honing in […]

21 Jan 19

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ADA episode 9. Nancy. It’s been a busy week, with Gibson getting shot at by Kingsley, him recuperating, and then him and Ada constantly bickering, and lastly, Stephen and Nathan fighting. Yes Stephen and Nathan fought. It was brutal. Chairs broke, tables were turned over and it happened right in the middle of the living […]

21 Jan 19
merci mille fois

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21 Jan 19
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21 Jan 19
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21 Jan 19
CRIME STORY

By Nate Hendley Looks like there were some arrests in the Tony Clement online nude selfies scandal (Clement being the Canadian Tory MP who exchanged naked images of himself over the Internet). Click here for details. I wrote all about the dangers of online romance/sex fraud in my book, The Big Con. Among other topics, I […]

21 Jan 19
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The Calvinistic Methodist Chapel (or Tabernacle) in Chapel Square, now occupied by Dovey Marine, has had a rich history, as did the Calvinistic Methodists who built it.   The chapel was their first dedicated premises, before which they used a number of temporary meeting places around the village, their lives made somewhat difficult by anti-Methodist persecution […]

21 Jan 19
News about world

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21 Jan 19
Believe Be Real Be Bold

The journey to identifying and embracing one’s true core values creates a solid foundation for which the authentic self can begin to blossom.

21 Jan 19
Food & Dating Magazine

Everything, down to our lives’ paths have an expected route. We’re supposed to leave home, go to college, get a job and start a family. And it doesn’t end there. When we go to a party, there are a set of expectations. Is it a birthday party? Better bring a gift. A family member’s in […]

21 Jan 19
Swipe Life
At work, I am assertive, confident, and never afraid to ask for what I want. I wouldn’t say I’m the total opposite when I go on dates, but I definitely put up with way more shit than I should. That might be because for me, first dates feel like a very necessary chore I have to do in order to find a guy who is worth spending time with on a regular basis and who feels the same way about me. But perhaps if I approached dating with the same tenacity, self-assurance, and unabashedness that help me get ahead at work, I’d stop feeling like my time was being wasted and would have better luck — not to mention a better time. That’s why over the course of two weeks, I decided to go on three dates and apply the rules that have helped propel my career. At least if my experiment wasn’t a total success, I’d never have to see my dates again — unlike my co-workers. Brag about yourself, because no one else will. I’m a journalist, and with a crazy, nonstop news cycle, my boss often misses some of the stories I publish. So anytime there’s a story I am particularly proud of and want to share, I shoot a link and a note to her — and sometimes even her boss. It’s earned me shoutouts in company-wide meetings and clout when I ask for something big, such as a raise. On dates, however, I typically avoid talking up my successes for fear of sounding self-absorbed. But my first date with Dave was scheduled two hours after I crushed spin class and got first place on the leaderboard. So I let it slip that I was feeling extra awesome, thanks to my athletic feat. This led to us discovering a shared love of spinning, and we joked that maybe we’d have to go together sometime and see who would come out on top. On another date, Eric, an Ivy League-educated attorney, asked me where I went college. I told him Arizona State University, which usually garners questions about ASU’s reputation as a party school. I’m always quick to defend my alma mater and my belief that you get out of college what you put into it. However this time, I needed to brag. After Eric asked me about college parties, I told him how I finished my B.A. when I was 20 and got my M.A. at 22. He was impressed and joked that I must have been some sort of child genius. I usually feel a little self-conscious telling people I zipped my way through college, but since he brought the topic up, I actually felt good not minimizing, even owning my experience. Talk about money. Some years ago, my work friends and I shared our salaries. Even though they had started working one year after me, I learned I was the one who was significantly underpaid. This prompted me to ask my boss to be put on a day rate like other full-time freelancers, and she made it happen. Since then, I’ve negotiated every salary and annual raise. Being unafraid to talk money has made a real difference in my paychecks, savings, and lifestyle. For the sake of this experiment, I decided I would bring up money on my date with Nick. We met up at a cocktail bar where drinks cost $20 each, and Nick asked about my job. I told him about my career trajectory and how I feel fortunate that I am finally at a point in my career where I can afford to go out to nice places once in a while, take vacations, and even save a bit. While we were on the topic of money, I also took a moment to highlight the amazing deal I got on my one-bedroom apartment in Manhattan. At this point, I felt like I was monopolizing the conversation, so I was relieved when Nick finally cut in and mentioned how he was happy to be having a drink instead of thinking about the beating his portfolio took that day. That gave me a chance to ask him about his investment habits. I did wonder if Nick walked away from the date thinking it was a miracle I didn’t run a credit check on him or ask about student debt or what his plans are for buying a house. But in retrospect, I suspect we spent so much time talking about money because it was the only point when the conversation seemed to flow. We had a decent time, but I’m also not surprised that we haven’t texted since. Learn to say no. When my plate is full at work and I am asked to take on another story with a tight deadline, I will tell my editor I can’t unless they can help lighten my workload. If I’m asked to speak on a panel after work and I’m not free or interested, I politely decline. I’ve said no plenty of times on dates, especially when the fuckboys of the world drunkenly text to request pics or ask for me to go home with them an hour into a date. But I’ve never been good about saying no to date ideas that simply were not of interest to me, like say, dinner. (It’s my most dreaded first date next to salsa dancing.). There’s the fact that I feel obligated to see it through to the end, even when I can tell before the appetizer arrives that he’s not a good match. Then there’s the extra anxiety about him choosing a sushi spot — as they all inevitably do — and watching me awkwardly struggle to use chopsticks. Dave, who looks like someone I’d love to stare at over many dinners in the future, suggested a fancy restaurant for our first date. In the past, I would have said yes and spent the day being anxious about the dinner, but my experiment reminded me that it’s OK to say no. I politely declined and suggested we meet for cocktails instead. He got right back to me with an alternative and seemed unfazed, at least over text. We ended up meeting at a speakeasy, and Dave never asked about my aversion to dinner on the first date. I can happily report we have since gone on a second date. Time is money. There’s nothing more annoying than having to sit in meetings that achieve nothing and waste precious working hours. It’s gotten to the point that I ask whether my attendance is required and if so, what is needed from me. Being firm with my time has done wonders for my productivity. I’m able to get my work done, explore new story ideas, and have a social life. Unfortunately, I haven’t been great about applying the “time is money” concept to dating. Last month, I went on a spontaneous Sunday afternoon Tinder date with a man who my friends and I now refer to as “the irate guy who had to pee.” Long story short, he was running late, got lost, asked me where he could go to the bathroom and then text-yelled at me because apparently “walk into any business and just go to the bathroom” wasn’t specific enough advice for him. When he finally arrived, I instantly disliked him and wanted to leave. Instead, I politely sat there and chugged two pints, wasting two and a half hours — and $25 —  with a man who tried to make his basic bodily functions my problem. So before I met Eric at an alcoholic ice cream parlor in my neighborhood, I let him know that I was excited for our date, but that I needed to leave to meet my girlfriends by 8 p.m. I figured it would be easier to set the boundary for our date in advance and over text. He told me that was no problem. If he had reacted differently, perhaps trying to reschedule, I probably wouldn’t have gone out with him. It’s important to me that a guy respects my boundaries. As far as first dates go, it felt very PG, but I liked it. We talked about our favorite quirky spots in New York City and gave each other a few ideas to add to our “must visit” lists. I knew I’d either be watching the clock, or if we hit it off, I’d lose track of time, so I set an alarm for 7:45 p.m., which would be my cue to start planning my exit. Granted, I forgot how loud my alarm was, so I felt slightly awkward. Nonetheless, I’m proud of myself for protecting my time, and Eric and I agreed to get together again soon. Ask for what you want. No one can read my mind, so I know it’s up to me to ask for what I want at work. But I’m awful about applying this rule to my dating life, and it’s 100 percent due to a fear of rejection and not wanting to be seen as needy. So I took it slow. At the ice cream parlor, I asked Eric if I could try a bite of his raspberry limoncello sorbet. I know it’s annoying when someone else is eyeing your food, but if a guy isn’t going to let me have a bite, well, we have a problem. When I was out with Dave, I asked if he’d go to the bar and order me another gin martini, two olives, while I was in the bathroom. He did it like it was no big deal. Typically, I’d wait for my date to offer or I’d just do it myself. Then came the big ask. As we said goodbye, I told Dave he aced the first date and that I want to go to dinner with him. He agreed. There was no waiting around after a great date, wondering will he or won’t he text? I avoided all that anxiety by asking for what I wanted. This dating experiment worked for my type-A personality. Dating started to feel less like a chore and more like something I could approach with a strategy for success. In the future, I will probably skip the money talk, just because I don’t think it added much value, but everything else, I’m planning to keep up. My time is precious and I shouldn’t waste it with anyone who doesn’t appreciate how awesome I am, my boundaries, or what I want out of a date.
21 Jan 19
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Chapter 026: Respect

21 Jan 19
Golden News

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21 Jan 19
For you honey

Gemini’s Love Style Dynamic, intense, and with so many shifting parts to their personalities, Gemini love to date. Indeed, they consider dating a skill. Gemini are great at drawing first dates out of their shells, and they rarely have a “bad” date—because this optimism-infused sign will always finds something positive about the person they meet […]

21 Jan 19
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21 Jan 19
ThinkProgress
NEW YORK, NEW YORK — Katherine Hadjimichael’s voice broke as she stood beside her daughter Frances Joseph at the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) field office in Lower Manhattan last month. “This is my daughter,” she pleaded with the clerk on the other side of a glass pane, tears rattling her composure. “She has two kids who are now without their father.” In July 2017, Joseph, then pregnant with her second child, was headed with her husband Llukan Buta and their firstborn daughter to a regularly scheduled check-in with Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE). Like many of the appointments he had attended with ICE since he was placed on supervised release in 2012, Buta expected nothing more than a routine hello and goodbye. When they arrived at the field office, ICE employees ushered Buta upstairs, preventing Joseph from accompanying her husband as she had done on prior check-ins. “We got there and out of nowhere they separate the spouse,” Joseph told ThinkProgress. “They never did that before. They always took us into the room together.” Agents only relented when Buta insisted on bringing his nearly two-year-old daughter Valentina alongside him. Joseph was told to bide her time in a waiting area on a different floor. “Valentina was with Llukan because she wanted to be with her father,” she recalled. “They said to him, ‘What did you bring your daughter for? Do you think we’re going to feel sorry for you?’” The next time Joseph saw her husband he was behind bars in ICE detention, awaiting deportation to Albania, a country his family fled when he was a child — and one he hadn’t seen for more than half his life. In 1998, 11-year-old Buta was brought to the United States by his parents, Albanian migrants seeking refuge from civil war that was unraveling the Baltics. The Buta family applied for asylum soon after arriving only to have their claim denied by an immigration judge in 2000. It was then that an order of deportation was issued for Buta and his family, though they were allowed to remain in the country as they appealed their case. During this time, Buta dropped out of high school and worked various jobs to help his mother pay the bills. When his parents divorced and his father left the family, Buta’s mother became the sole caretaker for Buta and his sister. “What did you bring your daughter for? Do you think we’re going to feel sorry for you?” “My mom was working two jobs to support the both of us,” he told ThinkProgress via phone from Albania. “My mom stayed to raise us [so we could have] a better life.” In 2002, the Board of Immigration Appeals declined to overturn the asylum judge’s ruling, leaving the family with few, if any, options to delay the order of deportation as they contemplated what to do next. After a series of unsuccessful attempts to have his case reopened, then-18 year-old, Buta faced the real prospect of having to return to a country he only knew from childhood. A family torn apart It was in 2014 that Joseph and Buta first met. As she tells it, they first caught each other’s eye when Buta’s friend approached her and her friends at Astoria Park, inviting them to hang out one day at the beach. Buta never showed, but he arranged for everyone to meet again soon. At a breakfast gathering shortly afterward, Joseph and Buta began their courtship. “I knew he had an order of supervision. I didn’t know that he also had [an order of] deportation on his back,” Joseph said. “I was pissed. I was upset. I kind of resent him for a lot of things he didn’t inform me on.” The deportation has exacted a heavy toll on Buta. He despairs at having missed the birth of Isabella, his second daughter, and for not being able to provide for his family. “I was crying [and had] depression,” Buta confessed. “You think about committing suicide.” Buta’s daughters, Valentina and Isabella. (Photo Courtesy of Frances Joseph) The consequences, both financial and emotional, of Buta being absent are dire for Joseph, who is also battling multiple sclerosis. While she recently started a new treatment that keeps most of her symptoms in check, the stress not only exacerbates the exhaustion and weakness that accompany the disease, but it also imperils her ability to raise two young kids on her own. “Just fatigue, everyday fatigue,” Joseph said. “I haven’t had any inflammations. I think that’s also because [this new] treatment keeps [the MS] asleep. As far as tiredness, fatigue? Every day. I could sleep at any moment. I could just knock out.” Joseph has had to turn to public assistance for help paying the bills. The irony of the situation is not lost on her, as she administered public benefits for New York City before going on medical leave to care for her newborn children. The couple’s legal consultant, Zachary Slapsys, finds the deportation especially hypocritical considering the Trump administration’s dubious crackdown on the use of government assistance by immigrants. “They were nowhere near public assistance when [Buta] was here,” Slapsys told ThinkProgress. “He was working at a family-owned business lawfully, paying taxes. Because of his financial and practical support to the family, she was able to work with her medical condition. She could balance that because they were a family and they functioned together. If you leave him in Albania, then you’re adding another [U.S. citizen to public assistance].” Buta spent the majority of his life putting down roots in the Queens community from which he was torn. In 2012, after years of uncertainty, supervised release with ICE granted him some measure of lawful presence. During this time, he obtained a GED at LaGuardia Community College and worked diligently at his mother’s Greek bakery. When he first caught Joseph’s eye at Astoria Park in 2014, Buta charmed his way into a fast courtship that quickly snowballed into a full-fledged romance. After many months of dating, pregnancy catalyzed their decision to make formal what was already true for them. Soon after Valentina’s birth, the pair went to city hall and got married. Photo courtesy of Frances Joseph Buta continued to build out a life for himself and his family under supervised release, which enabled him to get a work permit, pay taxes, and continue employment at the bakery. The couple moved into the basement apartment of a townhouse owned by Joseph’s mother, who lived upstairs and received rent from Buta that went toward the monthly mortgage payments. In 2017, Buta felt it was time to obtain a more permanent immigration status. He was an ideal candidate for a marriage-based green card, which provides lawful permanent residency to spouses of U.S. citizens. These applications are largely routine – hundreds of thousands of spouses are admitted under this program every year – as long as the applicant has a genuine familial connection to the United States, which Buta undoubtedly does. Before applying for a green card, he had to file what’s known as an I-130, essentially a document certifying that his marriage is authentic. USCIS, the immigration and citizenship agency, reviews and signs off on these documents so they can be used as a basis for a subsequent green card application. For spouses with children and a marriage predating the application by years, the process should be little more than a formality, according to Slapsys. Buta filed the I-130 and accompanying paperwork on July 11, 2017. On July 25, exactly two weeks after taking his first steps toward permanent residency, Buta was taken from his wife and daughter during the routine ICE check-in and deported to Albania. “Immigration normally, before this administration, would at least keep a deportation on hold until [the I-130] was resolved,” Slapsys said. “Knowing that he had that pending, they deported him anyway. It’s almost like there’s no respect for their own process.” Everyone’s a priority ICE deports tens of thousands of undocumented immigrants every year, and a deportation in a case like Buta’s, especially under the Trump administration, is always possible. In fiscal year 2017, ICE executed orders of removal on 81,603 undocumented immigrants. The overwhelming majority — 83 percent — of those deported had prior criminal convictions, according to ICE data. Individuals who have committed crimes have historically been the primary focus for ICE’s Enforcement and Removal Operations, though immigration lawyers have begun to see a shift in the way non-criminals are prioritized for deportation. “The policies of this administration are very clear and straightforward. They are not hiding what they’re doing. They’re saying, ‘We want to deport everyone,’” Slapsys argued. “People with no crimes, with U.S.-citizen family, with ties to this country, basically people we want here, they weren’t priorities. Now they are because everyone’s a priority.” During the Obama administration, then-assistant secretary of ICE John Morton issued a memorandum overhauling the way ICE treated undocumented immigrants in the midst of obtaining legal status. The 2010 memo directed the agency to drop removal proceedings against immigrants otherwise prone to deportation if they had applications pending before USCIS that would provide them lawful status. This policy change followed a 2009 report which found 17,000 deportation proceedings where the immigrant had a pending I-130 petition. Sui Chung, vice chair of the American Immigration Lawyers Association’s National ICE Committee, noted that while relief from removal in these circumstances was no guarantee under the Obama administration, “at least there was nuance.” “If there was a pathway or a means [toward legal status,] then they would permit that opportunity to work it out,” she said. “So long as people didn’t have serious crimes, they were allowing people to work it out.”  ICE did not return ThinkProgress’ request for comment. “I was crying [and had] depression … You think about committing suicide.” The problem of Buta’s I-130 application has spiraled out of control since his removal. The average processing time for I-130 forms was a little over seven months in 2017, when Buta’s application was filed. For the specific processing center where Buta’s I-130 was sent for adjudication, the majority of cases are resolved within eight months. As of January 2019, Buta and his family have been waiting 18 months for USCIS to approve their application. (USCIS did not respond to a request for comment.) The harm done at this point may prove difficult, if not impossible, to undo. When ICE decided to deport Buta while he was in the midst of obtaining permanent legal status, the removal automatically added a 10-year bar on his readmission into the United States. To be eligible to reunite with his family, Buta must first apply to waive the 10-year penalty on the grounds that his absence has caused his family undue hardship. The most Slapsys and Joseph can do in the meantime is request meeting after meeting with immigration agents in New York, appealing to their humanity in order to hurry along approval of the I-130. Scrawled at the bottom of a piece of paper handed to agents during one such meeting is the following plea: “Please expedite interview. Beneficiary/husband has been deported to Albania and I-130 adjudication is necessary to file the hardship waiver. U.S. [citizen] wife has two small children and suffers from MS. Thank you.” Asher Stockler is a freelance reporter and researcher currently residing in New York.
21 Jan 19
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