Dodge

17 Jun 19
East Bay Times
DEAR CAROLYN: I have a narcissistic mother whom I escaped by immigrating to the U.S. to pursue a Ph.D. in economics at Stanford University. After working for a number of years, I quit my job to take care of my son. When I visit my country of birth and am asked what I do for a living, my mother visibly cringes when I say I am a housewife and insists I talk about my education, projecting that she is ashamed to have me as a daughter. What is a good comeback line to shut her up? SAHM DEAR SAHM: So tempting. But I’m not sure a comeback is your best friend here. You’ll sound defensive, plus, no matter how well you know your mother, you’re still projecting her projection of shame. [related_articles location=”left” show_article_date=”false” article_type=”automatic-primary-tag”]Instead, I suggest you stay with the truth, delivered as calmly as you can: “I’m more interested in” — or “invested in” or “proud of” or whatever — “what I’m doing now. You’re welcome to talk about whatever you’d like.” This is most effective if you can then excuse yourself from the conversation. As the child of a narcissist, you do know as well as anyone that you can’t make your mom stop drawing attention to herself; you can only be true to yourself and adjust your exposure to her to protect your own health. That rule applies here as well. State your emotional position, then, as you’re able, change your physical one. DEAR CAROLYN: My friend “Cassie” has developed a romantic interest in my friend and co-worker “Joe.” They met through me. Cassie has invited Joe on a number of dates, the first few of which he agreed to. The fourth time he asked me to tag along and turn it into “a friendly thing.” Since then, he has either declined her invitations or asked me to play buffer. I feel bad because I know Cassie’s interest is not reciprocated, but I really hate to involve myself when they could easily work this out as adults. Am I obligated to stay out of it, or to tell Cassie plainly, as Joe has not done, that Joe is just not interested? Philadelphia DEAR PHILADELPHIA: Oh, Joe. Next time he asks you to tag along, tell him no, you won’t keep helping him dodge Cassie. For what it’s worth, Joe has told Cassie, about as plainly as he can without actually telling her, and she has opted not to hear it. This is on her, too, just less so. Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays? [dfm_iframe src=”https://apps.mercurynews.com/newsletters-signup/?campaign=coffeebreak” width=”100%” height=”220px” allowfullscreen=”yes” scrolling=”yes” /] DEAR CAROLYN: A neighbor’s wife is an alcoholic. The husband and my husband are friends. She asked me today if she could share a surplus of veggies from her garden in exchange for a few beers. I replied that I had none, so sorry. Should I let her husband know? She is recently out of a 10-day stay in hospital due to alcohol poisoning.  Neighbor DEAR NEIGHBOR: Yes, the husband needs to know, because it’s life-and-death at this point. I’m sorry. It is a lousy spot to be in. [related_articles location=”left” show_article_date=”false” article_type=”automatic-primary-section”] Adapted from a recent online discussion. Email Carolyn at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at http://www.washingtonpost.com.
17 Jun 19
The Mercury News
DEAR CAROLYN: I have a narcissistic mother whom I escaped by immigrating to the U.S. to pursue a Ph.D. in economics at Stanford University. After working for a number of years, I quit my job to take care of my son. When I visit my country of birth and am asked what I do for a living, my mother visibly cringes when I say I am a housewife and insists I talk about my education, projecting that she is ashamed to have me as a daughter. What is a good comeback line to shut her up? SAHM DEAR SAHM: So tempting. But I’m not sure a comeback is your best friend here. You’ll sound defensive, plus, no matter how well you know your mother, you’re still projecting her projection of shame. [related_articles location=”left” show_article_date=”false” article_type=”automatic-primary-tag”]Instead, I suggest you stay with the truth, delivered as calmly as you can: “I’m more interested in” — or “invested in” or “proud of” or whatever — “what I’m doing now. You’re welcome to talk about whatever you’d like.” This is most effective if you can then excuse yourself from the conversation. As the child of a narcissist, you do know as well as anyone that you can’t make your mom stop drawing attention to herself; you can only be true to yourself and adjust your exposure to her to protect your own health. That rule applies here as well. State your emotional position, then, as you’re able, change your physical one. DEAR CAROLYN: My friend “Cassie” has developed a romantic interest in my friend and co-worker “Joe.” They met through me. Cassie has invited Joe on a number of dates, the first few of which he agreed to. The fourth time he asked me to tag along and turn it into “a friendly thing.” Since then, he has either declined her invitations or asked me to play buffer. I feel bad because I know Cassie’s interest is not reciprocated, but I really hate to involve myself when they could easily work this out as adults. Am I obligated to stay out of it, or to tell Cassie plainly, as Joe has not done, that Joe is just not interested? Philadelphia DEAR PHILADELPHIA: Oh, Joe. Next time he asks you to tag along, tell him no, you won’t keep helping him dodge Cassie. For what it’s worth, Joe has told Cassie, about as plainly as he can without actually telling her, and she has opted not to hear it. This is on her, too, just less so. Want Carolyn Hax delivered to your inbox for free on weekdays? [dfm_iframe src=”https://apps.mercurynews.com/newsletters-signup/?campaign=coffeebreak” width=”100%” height=”220px” allowfullscreen=”yes” scrolling=”yes” /] DEAR CAROLYN: A neighbor’s wife is an alcoholic. The husband and my husband are friends. She asked me today if she could share a surplus of veggies from her garden in exchange for a few beers. I replied that I had none, so sorry. Should I let her husband know? She is recently out of a 10-day stay in hospital due to alcohol poisoning.  Neighbor DEAR NEIGHBOR: Yes, the husband needs to know, because it’s life-and-death at this point. I’m sorry. It is a lousy spot to be in. [related_articles location=”left” show_article_date=”false” article_type=”automatic-primary-section”] Adapted from a recent online discussion. Email Carolyn at tellme@washpost.com, follow her on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/carolyn.hax or chat with her online at noon Eastern time each Friday at http://www.washingtonpost.com.
17 Jun 19
Courier Management System, Courier Software India

To get started, logistics planning software takes numerous structures and is priceless in the realm of supply chain management. The remaining of this guide will help you to focus on what logistics management solutions are, what they can bring to overseeing third-party logistics (3PL) activities and how to pick between an incorporated or independent logistics […]

17 Jun 19
The Erryl Classicz

Sounds kind of cool to think about, robots as like our new guardians in the 21st century. But what do I exactly mean by that? Well, robots benefit us by providing care, assistance or even to some, company. Hospitals are a complicated and hectic place. People during with a myriad of diseases, ranging from a […]

17 Jun 19
NYDaily.news

Tyson Fury dodged a seven-punch combo from Tom Schwarz in five seconds on his Las Vegas debut. The self-proclaimed ‘Gypsy King’ produced a masterful performance last night as he stopped the German challenger to record his 28th professional victory. He lan…

17 Jun 19
Chichi's Takeups

[I started a second translation! It’s called Didn’t Know General Was Female and it’s a lighthearted GL story, if you’re into that. It’s almost a complete 180 in terms of tone and content from this one, haha…The update schedule for QC will remain unaffected by it, natch.]

17 Jun 19
Adafruit Industries - Makers, hackers, artists, designers and engineers!

Via Venture Beat: “We develop a purposive artificial intelligence-based formulation for the problem of general navigation,” wrote the paper’s coauthors. “Embodied AI … [is] AI design based on the knowledge of agent’s hardware limitations and timing/computation constraints … To our knowledge, this is the first deep learning-based solution to the problem of dynamic obstacle avoidance […]

17 Jun 19
Wandering Thru The Wilderness

Today, my youngest daughter asked me who my best friend is with the most innocent of questions. She’s 13 and she & her best friend spend hours laughing & texting. Her 17 year old sister & best friends go out shopping & double dating. Her 20 year old sister & best friend hold hours late […]

17 Jun 19
thelittlebookowl

Hi guys, I hope you are all well. Today I’m going to be talking about all the series I’m currently in the middle of. These are the series that I am loving right or have been a fan of for a while now. None of them are fully released and I think I’m up to […]

17 Jun 19

Good Morning, my fellow bookworms! I hope you all had a wonderful weekend and a happy Fathers Day! I apologize for being M.I.A on the blog for the last week or so. I was actually taking some much needed time off and decided to unplug for a little bit. My boyfriend and I went up […]

17 Jun 19
Mid America Racing Associates

Smooth Supermod survives early tumble for win; Al Czervik 2nd Since the reconstruction of the new Mile in Sedalia last winter, the clear focus has been on the higher speeds. And indeed the speeds are much higher. Fast speeds dominated the attention during last weekend’s Big Dick’s Halfway Inn Futurity. Absent from that conversation was […]

17 Jun 19
The Overspill: when there's more that I want to say

Think of a song lyric and you’ll find it on Google. But where did the search engine get it from? CC-licensed photo by Diego Sideburns on Flickr. You can sign up to receive each day’s Start Up post by email. You’ll need to click a confirmation link, so no spam. A selection of 9 links […]

17 Jun 19
saunteringbennetts

<——— Mexico 436.1 miles                Canada 2,215.9 miles ———> Last night was a horrible, very bad, no good nights sleep! We had avoided two different potential camp spots yesterday because our Guthook Navigation App had comments warning us that they were notorious for high winds. So we pushed on […]

17 Jun 19
Beebom

Taking a dig at tech giants like Facebook over privacy violations and the unabated spread of fake news, Apple CEO Tim Cook has asked fellow technologists to start taking responsibility for their actions. During a speech at the Stanford University on Sunday, Cook said that whether you like it or not, what you build and […]

17 Jun 19
Epona

Power Brake Booster Cardone 50-4222 Reman fits 94-96 Dodge Dakota – Buy – Power Brake Booster Cardone 50-4222 Reman fits 94-96 Dodge Dakota